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Happiness Takes Work

Be happy! it sound so easy, so jolly and care free, but why is it so hard to feel happy sometimes? Because being happy takes work. Don’t get me wrong, I am not talking about working to buy the next thing you think will make you happy; it is not about material things. Things will not make you happy long term, they just satisfy an immediate want or need. I am talking about what it takes to feel whole, to feel at peace, to feel relaxed, to make you smile from the soul. Being happy starts from within you, it starts by you taking care of healing your soul, to love the amazing person you are, the capacity of love in your heart, the acceptance of those things you can’t change, and the drive and motivation to change those things you can change. Being happy is giving your loved ones the time they need to feel loved and cared for and do the same for you in return. It means building meaningful relationships, taking care of your body and your mind, exploring and nourishing your curious and adventurous side. Stop thinking about what you can get that will make you happy and start thinking on what you can do to work in your lasting happiness. Change your mindset and your daily actions, you’ll see the difference.

Here are some things you can do on a regular basis to work on your happiness:

  • Exercise – you’ve heard this one before and it is true. Even if you do a light workout to get those endorphins going, it helps.
  • Sleep enough – please try to get at least 7 hours of sleep every night. Your body and your mind will thank you, plus you wake us in a better mood.
  • Go outside – even if you just go for a quick walk during your lunch, go out, see the natural light, breathe the fresh air and appreciate your surroundings.
  • Build a strong support system – surround yourself with people who truly care about you and you care about, people that will be there no matter what and that will push you up and encourage you.
  • Social gatherings- with family or friends. I know you want to go home, get in bed and binge-watch a show, but make sure to spend time with those you love.
  • Good deeds – volunteer to help others, it will give you a great sense of satisfaction and you’ll be doing something good for someone else.
  • Meditate – this will help you relax, quiet your mind,be aware of your breathing, and help your body and mind to connect.
  • Smile and or laugh – of course we are not always in the mood to do this,, but smiling or laughing generate more smiling and/or laughing from yourself and/or others. You can also brighten someone else’s day with this.
  • Find what you are passionate about and do it as a hobby.
  • Take time to appreciate what you do have material or not. Be grateful!

These are only some things to get you started, but it is all about acknowledging that everything takes work, accept it, work on it, and have a positive mindset. Everyone has dark days (some more than others), just make sure you see the light at the end of the tunnel and you walk towards it. If you struggle with this, it is okay to ask for help, bring a partner along in your journey to happiness and work together. You are not alone.

Stay true – Chantal

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Your Journey is as Unique as You Are

Have you ever found yourself comparing your life with the life of others around you? You are not alone! We’ve all seen the bigger house than, the better car than, the skinnier than, the better life than, the easier path than… you get the idea. No matter how well others may think we are doing, we always see what we are yet to accomplish and what we are missing, never fully enjoying our now and preventing us from being happy. Many people think that once they obtain what they don’t currently have, they’ll finally be happy. The reality is, once we reach what we see at that next level to accomplish, we immediately start seeking for the next thing we are missing… it never ends! Here are some things to keep in mind in order to look at our lives in a different way and BE HAPPY NOW.

Tomorrow is not for granted

We are fully aware of this, yet we treat people like they’ll be around forever.  In the span of four years I lost my uncle, my grandfather, my niece (a 12-year-old beautiful girl), my dad, and my grandmother. I was left feeling like I didn’t enjoy them enough, didn’t love them enough, and like I could have done more to have a better relationship with them. Those loses taught me that I need to enjoy my loved ones now, tell them I love them today, spend quality time with them on a day to day basis and not on a holiday basis, to appreciate them every single day and to love fully and intensely today.

Everyone struggles in different ways

That some struggles are not out for everyone to see, doesn’t mean that they are not happening. For instance, while some people are overwhelmed and financially tight raising a family, some others may be struggling with fertility issues and not being able to start a family. Some people struggle trying

to get a big promotion while others can’t find a job to sustain their family. Everyone goes through challenging times and every struggle is important. Therefore, it is important to not compare our lives with the lives of others; we don’t know what they are going through behind closed doors.

Have realistic goals and acknowledge your successes

It is great to have goals, want to improve and grow; however, make sure to set realistic goals. You can’t just say “I want to be a millionaire and set that as a goal”; that’s to broad and farfetched depending on where you are in life. It is better to set smaller short-term goals that keep updating as we achieve milestones and that go in line with a long-term goal. This way we can celebrate those smaller successes, measure our improvement and stay on track.

Make time to smell the roses

No matter how crazy life gets, make some time to have fun, take a breather, have me time, enjoy time with friends and family, or find a hobby. The point is to do something for pleasure, be fully present and enjoy it to the maximum.

This is your journey, make the best of it!

Stay true – Chantal

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All Natural Cleaner

Raise your hand if you’ve used a chemical cleaner in your kitchen! All of us..?

I’ve recently started using an all natural cleaner substitute which works JUST as well and makes your place smell squeaky clean. And it’s two ingredients.

Say hello to your new fave cleaner – lime and salt! You can use lemon too if you prefer. The acidity mixed with a coarse salt will clean your counters SO WELL. Just grate some salt onto a lime or lemon half, and scrub away. This also makes a great sink cleaner!

And when you’re done, put the lime down your garbage disposal! Your kitchen will smell amazing!

Easy peasy!

XOXO, Kim

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Walk It Off

Obstacles, frustrations and people getting in our nerves are part of life… unfortunately. We can’t control everything around us, we can’t control what other people do, but we can control the way we respond to all those things. We control if we react in a positive or negative way, if we allow things to affect us, and decide if we learn from those experiences and come out stronger. Sometimes it is hard to make decisions in the spur of the moment, find the right words in a heated argument (words you won’t regret), or think clearly when things seem to be falling apart; it is okay. It is perfectly fine for you to take yourself out of that situation, take a break, and contemplate your options. Here are some tips on what to do when things get difficult:

  • Go for a walk by yourself.
  • Don’t immediately think about the problem at hand. Appreciate your surroundings, look at the sky, the trees, hear the birds.
  • Breathe deeply, find your natural rhythm to get your heart rate to normal and calm down.
  • Do a recap of what’s going on and determine what factors are under your control and which you can’t do anything about. Be realistic.
  • Don’t worry about what you can’t change now… let it go.
  • Prioritize what you can change/fix and determine the root of the issues.
  • Tackle them one by one, not all at once.
  • Be open to input from helpful sources.

Taking a few minutes to WALK IT OFF and reassess the situation can really help you tackle things in a more positive and effective way. Remember that it doesn’t matter how many times you fall, but how many times you get up and continue fighting.

Tip: If you are having a heated personal argument, it is okay to sometimes choose to win the relationship vs winning the argument. It the heat of the moment is easy to hurt and attack just to win the argument no matter how silly of a thing it was. Take a step back before you can’t take back your words and your actions to determine if it’s worth it. Walking away from the issue at that moment may save the relationship from shattering.

What have you done in the past to properly handle a difficult situation?

Stay true – Chantal

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The Best Apps for Relaxation

It might seem contradictory to use your phone to relax since everyone always says to get off technology… BUT, there are some apps that can be a huuuge help!!

I personally have the worst anxiety (not exaggerating.. it’s the worst), and I’ve found that meditation helps a lot when I’m trying to relax. I love to use a meditation app either in the morning in the sauna after a workout or in bed at night trying to fall asleep.

Some benefits of meditation include an increase in self-awareness, a decrease in anxiety and stress, can help lengthen attention span, can decrease blood pressure, and make you happier! Read about some scientific benefits here.

I personally have found the greatest benefit in just relaxing my mind. It can be hard to focus on one thing for a long time, which is why meditating on my own hasn’t worked out for me very well! So here comes in some apps. And all of these are free! You can buy upgrades on most of them, but I’ve always been happy with what comes with the free versions.

  1. Headspace
  2. Simple Habit
  3. Calm (my personal fave!)
  4. Oak
  5. BetterMe
  6. Unplug
  7. Brightmind
  8. Relax Meditation

Have you tried meditating? Let us know!

XOXO, Kim

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Empower Yourself

We all know that it can be hard to stay motivated, and it becomes increasingly difficult if we wait to obtain encouragement and acknowledgement from outside sources in order to feel validated. It is your responsibility to truly become your biggest fan, start rooting for yourself! This doesn’t mean that you think you are perfect and have nothing else to learn (you never stop learning), but it means that you believe in your capacity for success, in your value as a human being, and that you love the person you are. We all struggle with self-love and tend to be our worst critics, but we need to start practicing self-compassion, acknowledging that nobody is perfect (including yourself) and that all you can do is try your hardest and enjoy the moment. Don’t get caught up clinging to the past or looking to the future. It is important to have short-term and long-term goals, but it is also necessary to take the time to enjoy the everyday. When was the last time you took the time to breath and look at the sky, to read a book for pleasure, or to look at yourself in the mirror and look at all of your positive traits instead of criticizing what’s wrong? Here are a few tips you can use to empower yourself and love who you are:

Build your self-esteem

Give yourself a compliment every day. We are so used to addressing everything that we think is negative about ourselves that we forget there is more to us. You can learn to love all the things that make you special.

Scattered notes

Periodically leave random notes of encouragement or lessons to be learned throughout your home. You will find them when you need them. You could also ask your guests to do this and hide them for you to find at a later time.

Personal timeline

Create a visual timeline where you show where you were in life 5 to 10 years ago, how your personality was back then, and the struggles you had to overcome. Do the same for the present, and in the future (5-10 years from now). Note how you’ve grown, what you’ve learned, and how you want to improve. This will serve as a reminder of how far you’ve come from who you were, the amazing person you are today, and a goal to work for.  

Negativity be gone

Do yourself a favor and ditch your negative friends. I have had friends that all they do is complain about their miserable life and how life just sucks, etc. People have bad moments, but when you refuse to change what’s making your life that way, it becomes your own fault. Surrounding yourself with people like that will only harm you.

Love how you look

I know that sometimes you just don’t like how you look and want to throw in the towel (everyone goes through this), but that’s when you need to go the extra mile and push through. Even if you want to wear sweats and that over-sized shirt…DON’T! Do a self-care routine instead, turn on some music, pick a better outfit you know you usually like, do your hair, etc. When you do a self-care routine (face mask, hair mask, teeth whitening, body scrub, etc) your mood changes, you are going against the initial “I hate how I look today” to “I will love myself and make myself feel good”. While you do this, look at your positive traits, and tell yourself what they are. You will feel much better afterwards.

Reward yourself

When you accomplish anything, don’t wait for other people to praise or reward you… reward yourself! Take yourself out to buy something special, maybe a walk at the park, a nice coffee time or dinner, or anything that makes you happy… You deserve it!

Stimulate your brain

Find something that interests you and go for it. Finding something new you can learn or do makes you feel stronger, smarter, more interesting, and builds your confidence.

These are only a few things to get you started, but there is so much more you can do, the key is to appreciate the wonderful human being you are, build up your confidence and become your best friend.

Tell me, what builds you up?

Stay true – Chantal

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Kick Stress to the Curve

I have recommended meditation a ton in the past, but did you know that something as simple as proper breathing can help you relieve stress, anxiety, improve digestion, detoxify your body, and more? Make sure to take some time to practice proper breathing techniques on a daily basis and see the difference!

Breathing Technique

  1. Sit or lay down in a comfortable position and close your eyes to become more aware of your breathing and relax.
  2. Place one hand on your upper chest and the other on your belly; when you breathe deeply, the air coming in through your nose fills your lungs, and the belly rises (not the chest).
  3. Breathe in and out through your nose and focus on the activity of breathing.
  4. Inhale and exhale slowly, calmly and quietly. Inhale, pause, exhale and pause. The time for an inhale and exhale depends on each person, so make sure you listen to your body to know when you’ve gotten enough air in and release it out trying to keep the time of the inhale and exhale the same. The key here is to listen to your body.

Breathe for a healthy body!

Stay true – Chantal