You’ve all heard this, life is short. We all spend waaaaaay too much time worrying about so many things that we miss the most important ones. Yes it is important to pay our bills, it is important to have a place to call home, cover our family’s needs, etc. but it is also important to LIVE and LIVE WELL. By living well I mean actually being fully present in the now, not looking at your phone every five seconds, invest your time in things tat will allow you to connect with others, connect with nature, and connect with your inner self. No, you don’t need a new phone every year and you definitely don’t need all of the latest gaming consoles as soon as they come out. It is nice once in a while, but things get broken, they lose value and the enjoyment for the object fades away; but the memories you make through experiences will stay with you forever. The end of the year is getting closer, take these last few months of 2019 to reflect on what really matters to you, create a bucket list of things you want to do or experience during the upcoming year, and go in to the new year with the purpose of checking as many of those items as possible. Whatever doesn’t happen next year, write it on the list for the following year, but keep that list somewhere you can see it, and next time you want to make a large purchase, remind yourself of those thing you could be checking off that list instead of buying that particular item.
Tell me about the best experience you’ve had this year so far and a bucket list item for the next year!
I hope you all are NOT laboring today! It’s a long weekend and it feels so good to have some extra time to relax.
I just got back from vacation to LA and Mexico.. and the post vacation blues are REAL! Even if you haven’t been out of town, a long weekend can still make it extra hard to get back to reality. Here are my tips to get back in the swing of things:
Make a list. I love to make my to do lists the night before.. then it’s out of my mind and on paper ready for the next day!
Schedule a workout. Book a class or write it in your calendar. If you schedule it like a meeting, you’ll be more motivated to go.
Meal prep! I love to start the week with breakfast and lunch made for the next few days. Prep some broccoli slaw salads and egg muffins ahead of time!
Self care is KEY. Put on a face mask, some self tanner, leave in conditioner.. and you’ll feel like a new woman!
What are your favorite things to do to beat the post-vacation blues?
Sleeping can be hard. Especially trying to adult, it’s so easy to stay up all night thinking about your next to do list or worrying about something that happened that day. And sometimes you just aren’t tired!
You’ve heard of a lot of natural remedies I’m sure.. chamomile tea, melatonin.. but those actually don’t work for me! Melatonin gives me restless legs and the tea gives me crazy nightmares! (At least I think they’re related)
Next time you can’t sleep, try some essential oils! A dab of lavender oil on your wrists at night or a spray of some calming oil like the one in the photo are live savers. The scent is crazy relaxing and will help you fall asleep in no time.
Be happy! it sound so easy, so jolly and care free, but why is it so hard to feel happy sometimes? Because being happy takes work. Don’t get me wrong, I am not talking about working to buy the next thing you think will make you happy; it is not about material things. Things will not make you happy long term, they just satisfy an immediate want or need. I am talking about what it takes to feel whole, to feel at peace, to feel relaxed, to make you smile from the soul. Being happy starts from within you, it starts by you taking care of healing your soul, to love the amazing person you are, the capacity of love in your heart, the acceptance of those things you can’t change, and the drive and motivation to change those things you can change. Being happy is giving your loved ones the time they need to feel loved and cared for and do the same for you in return. It means building meaningful relationships, taking care of your body and your mind, exploring and nourishing your curious and adventurous side. Stop thinking about what you can get that will make you happy and start thinking on what you can do to work in your lasting happiness. Change your mindset and your daily actions, you’ll see the difference.
Here are some things you can do on a regular basis to work on your happiness:
Exercise – you’ve heard this one before and it is true. Even if you do a light workout to get those endorphins going, it helps.
Sleep enough – please try to get at least 7 hours of sleep every night. Your body and your mind will thank you, plus you wake us in a better mood.
Go outside – even if you just go for a quick walk during your lunch, go out, see the natural light, breathe the fresh air and appreciate your surroundings.
Build a strong support system – surround yourself with people who truly care about you and you care about, people that will be there no matter what and that will push you up and encourage you.
Social gatherings- with family or friends. I know you want to go home, get in bed and binge-watch a show, but make sure to spend time with those you love.
Good deeds – volunteer to help others, it will give you a great sense of satisfaction and you’ll be doing something good for someone else.
Meditate – this will help you relax, quiet your mind,be aware of your breathing, and help your body and mind to connect.
Smile and or laugh – of course we are not always in the mood to do this,, but smiling or laughing generate more smiling and/or laughing from yourself and/or others. You can also brighten someone else’s day with this.
Find what you are passionate about and do it as a hobby.
Take time to appreciate what you do have material or not. Be grateful!
These are only some things to get you started, but it is all about acknowledging that everything takes work, accept it, work on it, and have a positive mindset. Everyone has dark days (some more than others), just make sure you see the light at the end of the tunnel and you walk towards it. If you struggle with this, it is okay to ask for help, bring a partner along in your journey to happiness and work together. You are not alone.
Have you ever found yourself comparing your life with the life of others around you? You are not alone! We’ve all seen the bigger house than, the better car than, the skinnier than, the better life than, the easier path than… you get the idea. No matter how well others may think we are doing, we always see what we are yet to accomplish and what we are missing, never fully enjoying our now and preventing us from being happy. Many people think that once they obtain what they don’t currently have, they’ll finally be happy. The reality is, once we reach what we see at that next level to accomplish, we immediately start seeking for the next thing we are missing… it never ends! Here are some things to keep in mind in order to look at our lives in a different way and BE HAPPY NOW.
Tomorrow is not for granted
We are fully aware of this, yet we
treat people like they’ll be around forever. In the span of four years I lost my uncle, my
grandfather, my niece (a 12-year-old beautiful girl), my dad, and my grandmother.
I was left feeling like I didn’t enjoy them enough, didn’t love them enough, and
like I could have done more to have a better relationship with them. Those
loses taught me that I need to enjoy my loved ones now, tell them I love them
today, spend quality time with them on a day to day basis and not on a holiday
basis, to appreciate them every single day and to love fully and intensely
Everyone struggles in different ways
That some struggles are not out for everyone to see, doesn’t mean that they are not happening. For instance, while some people are overwhelmed and financially tight raising a family, some others may be struggling with fertility issues and not being able to start a family. Some people struggle trying
to get a big promotion while others can’t find a job to sustain their family. Everyone goes through challenging times and every struggle is important. Therefore, it is important to not compare our lives with the lives of others; we don’t know what they are going through behind closed doors.
Have realistic goals and acknowledge
It is great to have goals, want to
improve and grow; however, make sure to set realistic goals. You can’t just say
“I want to be a millionaire and set that as a goal”; that’s to broad and
farfetched depending on where you are in life. It is better to set smaller
short-term goals that keep updating as we achieve milestones and that go in
line with a long-term goal. This way we can celebrate those smaller successes, measure
our improvement and stay on track.
Make time to smell the roses
No matter how crazy life gets, make
some time to have fun, take a breather, have me time, enjoy time with friends
and family, or find a hobby. The point is to do something for pleasure, be
fully present and enjoy it to the maximum.
Raise your hand if you’ve used a chemical cleaner in your kitchen! All of us..?
I’ve recently started using an all natural cleaner substitute which works JUST as well and makes your place smell squeaky clean. And it’s two ingredients.
Say hello to your new fave cleaner – lime and salt! You can use lemon too if you prefer. The acidity mixed with a coarse salt will clean your counters SO WELL. Just grate some salt onto a lime or lemon half, and scrub away. This also makes a great sink cleaner!
And when you’re done, put the lime down your garbage disposal! Your kitchen will smell amazing!
Obstacles, frustrations and people getting in our nerves are part
of life… unfortunately. We can’t control everything around us, we can’t control
what other people do, but we can control the way we respond to all those
things. We control if we react in a positive or negative way, if we allow
things to affect us, and decide if we learn from those experiences and come out
stronger. Sometimes it is hard to make decisions in the spur of the moment,
find the right words in a heated argument (words you won’t regret), or think
clearly when things seem to be falling apart; it is okay. It is perfectly fine
for you to take yourself out of that situation, take a break, and contemplate
your options. Here are some tips on what to do when things get difficult:
Go for a walk by yourself.
Don’t immediately think about the problem at
hand. Appreciate your surroundings, look at the sky, the trees, hear the birds.
Breathe deeply, find your natural rhythm to
get your heart rate to normal and calm down.
Do a recap of what’s going on and determine
what factors are under your control and which you can’t do anything about. Be
Don’t worry about what you can’t change now…
let it go.
Prioritize what you can change/fix and determine
the root of the issues.
Tackle them one by one, not all at once.
Be open to input from helpful sources.
Taking a few minutes to WALK IT OFF and reassess the situation can
really help you tackle things in a more positive and effective way. Remember
that it doesn’t matter how many times you fall, but how many times you get up
and continue fighting.
Tip: If you are having a heated personal argument, it is okay to
sometimes choose to win the relationship vs winning the argument. It the heat
of the moment is easy to hurt and attack just to win the argument no matter how
silly of a thing it was. Take a step back before you can’t take back your words
and your actions to determine if it’s worth it. Walking away from the issue at
that moment may save the relationship from shattering.
What have you done in the past to properly handle a difficult
It might seem contradictory to use your phone to relax since everyone always says to get off technology… BUT, there are some apps that can be a huuuge help!!
I personally have the worst anxiety (not exaggerating.. it’s the worst), and I’ve found that meditation helps a lot when I’m trying to relax. I love to use a meditation app either in the morning in the sauna after a workout or in bed at night trying to fall asleep.
Some benefits of meditation include an increase in self-awareness, a decrease in anxiety and stress, can help lengthen attention span, can decrease blood pressure, and make you happier! Read about some scientific benefits here.
I personally have found the greatest benefit in just relaxing my mind. It can be hard to focus on one thing for a long time, which is why meditating on my own hasn’t worked out for me very well! So here comes in some apps. And all of these are free! You can buy upgrades on most of them, but I’ve always been happy with what comes with the free versions.
We all know that it can be hard to stay motivated, and it becomes
increasingly difficult if we wait to obtain encouragement and acknowledgement
from outside sources in order to feel validated. It is your responsibility to
truly become your biggest fan, start rooting for yourself! This doesn’t mean
that you think you are perfect and have nothing else to learn (you never stop
learning), but it means that you believe in your capacity for success, in your
value as a human being, and that you love the person you are. We all struggle
with self-love and tend to be our worst critics, but we need to start
practicing self-compassion, acknowledging that nobody is perfect (including
yourself) and that all you can do is try your hardest and enjoy the moment.
Don’t get caught up clinging to the past or looking to the future. It is
important to have short-term and long-term goals, but it is also necessary to
take the time to enjoy the everyday. When was the last time you took the time
to breath and look at the sky, to read a book for pleasure, or to look at
yourself in the mirror and look at all of your positive traits instead of
criticizing what’s wrong? Here are a few tips you can use to empower yourself
and love who you are:
Build your self-esteem
Give yourself a compliment every day.
We are so used to addressing everything that we think is negative about
ourselves that we forget there is more to us. You can learn to love all the
things that make you special.
Periodically leave random notes of
encouragement or lessons to be learned throughout your home. You will find them
when you need them. You could also ask your guests to do this and hide them for
you to find at a later time.
Create a visual timeline where you
show where you were in life 5 to 10 years ago, how your personality was back
then, and the struggles you had to overcome. Do the same for the present, and in
the future (5-10 years from now). Note how you’ve grown, what you’ve learned, and
how you want to improve. This will serve as a reminder of how far you’ve come
from who you were, the amazing person you are today, and a goal to work for.
Negativity be gone
Do yourself a favor and ditch your
negative friends. I have had friends that all they do is complain about their
miserable life and how life just sucks, etc. People have bad moments, but when
you refuse to change what’s making your life that way, it becomes your own
fault. Surrounding yourself with people like that will only harm you.
Love how you look
I know that sometimes you just don’t like how you look and want to throw in the towel (everyone goes through this), but that’s when you need to go the extra mile and push through. Even if you want to wear sweats and that over-sized shirt…DON’T! Do a self-care routine instead, turn on some music, pick a better outfit you know you usually like, do your hair, etc. When you do a self-care routine (face mask, hair mask, teeth whitening, body scrub, etc) your mood changes, you are going against the initial “I hate how I look today” to “I will love myself and make myself feel good”. While you do this, look at your positive traits, and tell yourself what they are. You will feel much better afterwards.
When you accomplish anything, don’t
wait for other people to praise or reward you… reward yourself! Take yourself
out to buy something special, maybe a walk at the park, a nice coffee time or
dinner, or anything that makes you happy… You deserve it!
Stimulate your brain
Find something that interests you and
go for it. Finding something new you can learn or do makes you feel stronger,
smarter, more interesting, and builds your confidence.
These are only a few things to get you started, but there is so
much more you can do, the key is to appreciate the wonderful human being you
are, build up your confidence and become your best friend.
I have recommended meditation a ton in
the past, but did you know that something as simple as proper breathing can
help you relieve stress, anxiety, improve digestion, detoxify your body, and
more? Make sure to take some time to practice proper breathing techniques on a
daily basis and see the difference!
Sit or lay down in a comfortable position and
close your eyes to become more aware of your breathing and relax.
Place one hand on your upper chest and the
other on your belly; when you breathe deeply, the air coming in through your
nose fills your lungs, and the belly rises (not the chest).
and out through your nose and focus on the activity of breathing.
exhale slowly, calmly and quietly. Inhale, pause, exhale and pause. The time
for an inhale and exhale depends on each person, so make sure you listen to your
body to know when you’ve gotten enough air in and release it out trying to keep
the time of the inhale and exhale the same. The key here is to listen to your