Have you ever found yourself comparing your life with the life of others around you? You are not alone! We’ve all seen the bigger house than, the better car than, the skinnier than, the better life than, the easier path than… you get the idea. No matter how well others may think we are doing, we always see what we are yet to accomplish and what we are missing, never fully enjoying our now and preventing us from being happy. Many people think that once they obtain what they don’t currently have, they’ll finally be happy. The reality is, once we reach what we see at that next level to accomplish, we immediately start seeking for the next thing we are missing… it never ends! Here are some things to keep in mind in order to look at our lives in a different way and BE HAPPY NOW.
Tomorrow is not for granted
We are fully aware of this, yet we treat people like they’ll be around forever. In the span of four years I lost my uncle, my grandfather, my niece (a 12-year-old beautiful girl), my dad, and my grandmother. I was left feeling like I didn’t enjoy them enough, didn’t love them enough, and like I could have done more to have a better relationship with them. Those loses taught me that I need to enjoy my loved ones now, tell them I love them today, spend quality time with them on a day to day basis and not on a holiday basis, to appreciate them every single day and to love fully and intensely today.
Everyone struggles in different ways
That some struggles are not out for everyone to see, doesn’t mean that they are not happening. For instance, while some people are overwhelmed and financially tight raising a family, some others may be struggling with fertility issues and not being able to start a family. Some people struggle trying
to get a big promotion while others can’t find a job to sustain their family. Everyone goes through challenging times and every struggle is important. Therefore, it is important to not compare our lives with the lives of others; we don’t know what they are going through behind closed doors.
Have realistic goals and acknowledge your successes
It is great to have goals, want to improve and grow; however, make sure to set realistic goals. You can’t just say “I want to be a millionaire and set that as a goal”; that’s to broad and farfetched depending on where you are in life. It is better to set smaller short-term goals that keep updating as we achieve milestones and that go in line with a long-term goal. This way we can celebrate those smaller successes, measure our improvement and stay on track.
Make time to smell the roses
No matter how crazy life gets, make some time to have fun, take a breather, have me time, enjoy time with friends and family, or find a hobby. The point is to do something for pleasure, be fully present and enjoy it to the maximum.
This is your journey, make the best of it!
Stay true – Chantal