Obstacles, frustrations and people getting in our nerves are part of life… unfortunately. We can’t control everything around us, we can’t control what other people do, but we can control the way we respond to all those things. We control if we react in a positive or negative way, if we allow things to affect us, and decide if we learn from those experiences and come out stronger. Sometimes it is hard to make decisions in the spur of the moment, find the right words in a heated argument (words you won’t regret), or think clearly when things seem to be falling apart; it is okay. It is perfectly fine for you to take yourself out of that situation, take a break, and contemplate your options. Here are some tips on what to do when things get difficult:
- Go for a walk by yourself.
- Don’t immediately think about the problem at hand. Appreciate your surroundings, look at the sky, the trees, hear the birds.
- Breathe deeply, find your natural rhythm to get your heart rate to normal and calm down.
- Do a recap of what’s going on and determine what factors are under your control and which you can’t do anything about. Be realistic.
- Don’t worry about what you can’t change now… let it go.
- Prioritize what you can change/fix and determine the root of the issues.
- Tackle them one by one, not all at once.
- Be open to input from helpful sources.
Taking a few minutes to WALK IT OFF and reassess the situation can really help you tackle things in a more positive and effective way. Remember that it doesn’t matter how many times you fall, but how many times you get up and continue fighting.
Tip: If you are having a heated personal argument, it is okay to sometimes choose to win the relationship vs winning the argument. It the heat of the moment is easy to hurt and attack just to win the argument no matter how silly of a thing it was. Take a step back before you can’t take back your words and your actions to determine if it’s worth it. Walking away from the issue at that moment may save the relationship from shattering.
What have you done in the past to properly handle a difficult situation?
Stay true – Chantal